I raised 2 successful CEOs and a doctor-here's one of the biggest mistakes I see parents making.A psychologist shares the 7 biggest parenting mistakes that destroy kids' confidence and self-esteem.Like this story? Subscribe to CNBC Make It on YouTube!
She is the author of the national best-seller "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do″ and "13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do." In 2015, Amy was named the "self-help guru of the moment" by The Guardian. By coaching and guiding your kids through tough times, they'll be better equipped to handle things that don't work out fine in the future.Īmy Morin is a psychotherapist and instructor at Northeastern University. Then, encourage them to keep practicing and try again when they feel ready. If that's the case, comfort them with a hug and acknowledge their feelings by saying, "I know you really wanted to get picked today, but there will be many more opportunities."
Maybe your kid just needs to put in more practice time. Rather than telling them that there's always a happy ending, teach them that they're strong enough to handle life's inevitable curveballs. If your kid didn't get picked as a starting player for their sports team, convincing them that everything will always turn out well won't prepare them for the future. When kids understand the importance of a task, they'll be more likely to comply. In these situations, it's helpful to explain why they're being asked to do it. Of course, there will always be something that they don't want to do, but absolutely should do, such as going to bed at a reasonable time or eating their veggies. You can teach them this important lesson by saying something like, "I don't feel like grocery shopping today, but I want to make sure we have food in the fridge for the week," or "I'm tired, but we told Grandma we'd go to her house. Kids who grow up to be successful understand that life is all about the choices they make. Instead, show your kids that you're in control of your own time: It's up to you to decide what you're going to do, as well as when and how you're going to do it. Whenever you say that you have to do something, whether it's running an errand or going to dinner at Grandma's house, you imply that you're being forced to do things you don't want to do.
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